Plan your visit
How to read the result
Koha amount
Cash in a red envelope (红包), round number. ¥200 is the minimum polite; ¥600–1000 is normal for weddings; ¥2000+ is the relative gift. Always odd numbers are NOT required here — round numbers (200, 600, 1000) are fine and avoid the funeral connotation.
What to bring
Beyond cash: a bottle of good rice wine or baijiu (酒), a carton of cigarettes (Miao hosts often share), apples or oranges for the table. Never clock/wrap clocks (送钟 = funeral in Chinese).
Toast order
Guest of honour toasts first. In Dong villages the song comes before the drink — learn two lines of 侗族大歌 or expect to be coached. Return the toast with both hands. Toasting with one hand is mildly insulting.
What this tool can't tell you
- Specific clan variations — some Miao sub-groups have stricter rules we don't hardcode.
- Whether the host is a strict traditionalist or a more relaxed younger-generation returnee.
- Local funeral customs in detail — when in doubt, send a family elder to advise.
- Whether the rice wine is homemade (often 30%+ ABV) or commercial (milder).
Common questions
Can I refuse the rice wine?
Is it okay to photograph everything?
What about shoes in the house?
Sources & reference data
Miao and Dong custom compilations from 贵州省民族博物馆; koha ranges based on 2024 wedding tourism reports; etiquette verified against current homestay host training materials.